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Laborious Choices

The Narrative and the Truth

The coronavirus pandemic changed so much about the way we work — the momentum behind remote work, shortened workweeks, corporate accountability and equitable workplaces has never been stronger. For a lot of people, two years of living and working through the pandemic has also changed their relationship with work itself.

Any more than a cursory glance at social media will demonstrate how many people who oppose the commodification of adult-oriented labor consider it to be simply a matter of sending a laborer into another industry and assuming that they will be “fine”. When presented with the hard facts about the complicated nuance, organic diversity, lack of resources and institutional and societal barriers for the verry people within the adult industry, they throw up their hands and express what can only be interpreted as surprise - and always seem a little miffed that their advice – neither sought nor requested – was challenged. The fact is that accessible, low barrier jobs that pay well are much harder to come by than many folks think.

Let's step outside the whole real job/not real job dynamic and look at just a few of the things that impede how people get – and keep – jobs. tation led a lot of people to reevaluate what they prioritize in life and how they spend their time. Between logging work hours and spending time with loved ones, people are overwhelmingly choosing their relationships with each other. And that a good thing! Its also a huge determining factor in the lives of many adult industry workers. Many have children they want to be home for when they get home from school. Some may care for an aging parent or spouse. The reasons for people choose a job are largely based on reason having nothing to do with the job. In fact, people are finding work to be just “another part of your life”, or just a “thing you do”, and you can have more flexibility in doing it. Workers don’t necessarily feel if they’re more happy or less happy.

But many adult industry workers have more of a say in what their work life and identity looks like than many people who fetishize about such things may think. In fact, many adult laborers have told us that they have continued to trade sex even when they had a job and have turned down job opportunities because they simply prefer the ability to make choices about when, where, how and who they work with. The “why” was just not as important. Ironically, the ability to decide where and when you work gives people a stronger sense of safety and control. By getting rid of the office experience, many marginalized workers can avoid microaggressions, hostile work environments, having to codeswitch, being an “only” in the room or “dreading going back to environments that aren’t culturally safe.”

Giving people the ability to choose how and where they work can give them a greater sense of meaning in their jobs. This is true no matter where you work or what you do.

A Question of Money

Money motivates a majority of people who work. People work to earn a living, and they strive to put food on their table as well as to pay “the bills”. Research shows that money is the primary motivating factor that compels people to wake up in the morning to go to work. The significance of money cannot be underestimated. This is why people do not just work for free. Well – that and capitalism...

Social Significance

Some people work because it creates an opportunity for social interactions. Or even to allows avoid social interactions. Some jobs involve a lot of teamwork, networking, and some entertainment aspects is enough to make people pursue work. The workplace environment creates some sense of happiness due to the socialization and associated work drama. According to some research done prior to the pandemic, 78% of a survey’s respondents suggested a companies culture plays a big part in their daily work-life. People can easily spend half of their lives at work, so it’s pretty important to work at a job with an ideal microclimate that fits the individual. Many companies understood this early – like Google and Facebook and went to great lengths to create work environments that stimulate and engage the workers so they would work longer and harder.

Skills and Abilities

Some people want opportunities to exercise their inherent skills. This is why people do jobs that match their skills, abilities, talents, and personalities. Studies conducted within organizations – again – before the pandemic - reveal that many people stayed in jobs because of the opportunities they have to exercise their skills and to learn new things. Research conducted after the pandemic revealed that many people left their job because they didn’t have this opportunity.


Job satisfaction is one of the factors that people evaluate in their pursuit of better jobs or their decision to maintain previous employment. Many people who work in place for a long time will testify that their jobs bring significant satisfaction. People have several reasons that bring about their happiness, which make them go on with their work grind. Similarly, people who are not happy in their workplaces are prone to leave in search of opportunities that would contribute to their satisfaction.

A 2013 Gallup report in which they concluded that only 13% of people who are working are passionate and enjoy their work. On the other hand, 63%, which makes a significant part of working people, are frustrated and disengaged from what they are doing. That shows, through people are not satisfied with their current jobs, they desire to move further and find better job opportunities that would fulfill their goals and make them happy. Or possibly into different work. The Covid 19 pandemic has had an even greater impact on the way people feel about their job and we saw a mass exodus from many industries


Respect is among the things that contribute to one’s self-esteem and happiness in life so It’s not insignificant people would pursue jobs that earn them respect in society. This is true for Doctors, Lawyers, Teachers, Preachers, Accountants, Librarians, Law Makers, Police Officers, Business Owners (and pretty much everyone) and it is no less true for those of us who hustle.

Labor is labor, regardless of what you do, where and how you work, and why you choose the kind of work you do, and the reason we labor varies from person to person. Doing a really honest personal assessment about your work and the way you feel about it is the best way to determine your next best step.

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